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Creating a healthy environment for a mutually satisfying relationship became the most hard and tedious task that a couple has to face in the complicated society in which we live. Nowadays, divorce is the norm and everlasting relationships are perceived as one of the wonderful memories of ancient history. One must wonder: Is there any hope that the human race will be capable of conquering the domain of relationships between the two genders by  simplifying its concept? The answer seems to be disappointing       considering the emphasis, which the media is putting upon the failure of relationships. Most sitcoms on Television have among their principal characters divorced or legally separated couples.        After much soul searching, I came up with criteria that one could use to evaluate one?s relationship with the opposite gender. One can claim enjoying the magical wonders of being in a mutually satisfying relationship if the couple succeeds in accomplishing the following:   Enhancing each other's life not altering it Filling each other's heart with joy and laughter Respecting and believing in each other?s ideas and beliefs not putting them                    down Stimulating  each other mentally, satisfying one another physically and evolving              together spiritually Accepting each other as they are and never attempting to change one                           another Appreciating each other all the time not only on special occasion Permitting each other the chance to have space Enhancing each other's life not altering it A relationship should enhance each partner's life not alter it. Most couples acquire the misconception of having the right to change each other's life after deciding to be a couple. Men and women must comprehend the fact that it is an impossible task for an individual to change his or her life completely because that individual fell in love with a member of the opposite gender and       wishes to share his or her life with him or  her. Of course, one?s life as a single person is slightly different from its counterpart as a married individual. One  must attempt to find the balance between pursuing one's activities              and allocating time to spend with one's significant other. A great  number of married couples attempt to force each other to give up some of their activities. That might create resentments that  gradually will lead to destroying their relationship.                                                                                                                      Next Page

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Permitting each other the chance to have space

The majority of couples have a misconceived notion              that if they leave each other space they will drift apart. There are              three fundamental categories of one?s time, time together with one?s              partner, time that should be spent with family and friends and time              that ought to be allocated for oneself. It is essential that each              individual in the relationship should have time alone to reflect              upon and evaluate one?s evolution and the progress that was made in              their relationship. The time with family and friends is needed to              keep one?s link to the past and acquire the feeling of belonging.              The time together with one?s spouse should be used to resolve issues              that may arise from time to time in all relationships or to be              amorous. Attempting to make each other comfortable in talking about              everything is essential for achieving harmonious coexistence with              one another. A relationship starts to deteriorate when the couple              begins to restrict the topics of discussion. There should be              absolutely no prohibited to discuss subject among the couple.              Everything must be in the open to talk about freely without any              apprehension. Some might feel the need to keep secrets from each              other to be mysterious. That might work in the short run but that              eventually will lead to fracturing the trust that they have in each              other and worked very hard to build. Appreciating each other all the time not only on              special occasion One doesn?t need              an occasion to show appreciation toward one?s significant other.              Every day is a precious gift that one must use to make the other              person feel wanted and appreciated. It will help keeping the romance              well and alive throughout the relationship. It is common that a              couple perceive romance as a mean to convince one?s interest to fall              in love with and agree to be one?s significant other. As soon as              they declare their love for one another or get married, all romance              disappears. Some think that romance is for the movies and romance              novels but can?t be practiced in real life. They attribute the lack              of romance to the hectic life, which they lead. One must find the              time and exert the efforts to bring some romance to the relationship              and make it an essential aspect in it.

The elements of a successful relationship vary from              one individual to the next and should not be taken as recipe for              guaranteed success in one?s relationship with the opposite gender.              Each couple can sit down, when they meet and start courting each              other, to define their own criteria for a mutually satisfying              relationship. They should discuss and decide upon the important              aspects that they wish to have in their              relationship.